I have stage IV emphysema and they have found spots on my lungs which if cancerous could be a problem to treat.. My Dr. and I had a long talk and we both know I am really at a fragile time, but really trying. How do I get my family to talk to me and not talk around me. I don't want this to be a downer for the family but I really need someone to talk to. Do I go to counciling instead? There are times I just want to scream and cry. How do I get someone to just give me a hug....? I'm sorry, I just needed to rant.